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National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

This blog post will discuss domestic violence, as well as sexual and emotional violence and abuse. If you or someone you know is experiencing violence or abuse, please call the Family Violence & Rape Crisis Center’s 24-hour help line at 919-545-0224, walk-in to the Pittsboro or Siler City office, or tell an adult you can trust to find you help and keep you safe. Also, support victims and survivors of domestic violence at the FVRC’s Domestic Violence Vigil on October 30, 2012 at 5:30 PM beside the Courtyard Café in Siler City.

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and a great time to discuss a topic that many people find hard to address. Domestic violence is violence or abuse that occurs in a home, usually between family members. Abuse can be physical or verbal, and oftentimes verbal and emotional abuse is much more difficult to identify. Examples of physical and sexual abuse are punching, hitting, shoving, sexual assault, and rape. Examples of verbal or emotional abuse include: shouting, name-calling, harassment, talking down to someone, or trying to control what another person does or who they can talk to. Although domestic and sexual violence is most commonly perpetrated by men, anyone can be abused and anyone can be an abuser. It is not acceptable to ignore a concern about domestic or sexual violence because of who a person is or what they look like.

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Tobacco, Alcohol, and Drug Abuse Prevention

The second theme for Public Health Month is Alcohol, Tobacco and Drug Use Prevention.  There are several organizations right here in Chatham that have the sole focus of eliminating alcohol and drug abuse. Click here to read more


October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month Part II

Are you in an abusive relationship? Warning signs:

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner—constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

Signs that You are in a Abusive Relationship:

Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings

Do you:

  • Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
  • Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • Feel emotionally numb or helpless? 

Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior

Does your partner:

  • Humiliate or yell at you?
  • Criticize you and put you down?
  • Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
  • Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • Blame you for his own abusive behavior?
  • See you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats

Does your partner:

  • Have a bad and unpredictable temper?
  • Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? 
  • Threaten to take your children away or harm them?
  • Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  • Force you to have sex?
  • Destroy your belongings?

Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior

Does your partner:

  • Act excessively jealous and possessive?
  • Control where you go or what you do?
  • Keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
  • Constantly check up on you?

Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

If you or anybody you know is suffering from domestic violence or you would like additional information about domestic violence and services available call Family Violence and Rape Crisis Center at 919-542-4545 or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-7233


October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Domestic violence is an epidemic that affects individuals across all cultural, racial, religious, economic, educational and national backgrounds. One in four women has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime. What is more alarming is that most of domestic violence cases are never reported to the police; making domestic violence a chronically underreported crime. 

Domestic violence has physical, psychological, emotional and economic ramifications not only on the victim but on the community as well. Domestic Violence Awareness Month aims to educate and support domestic violence victims by bringing awareness to resources available that increase access to support systems.

General warning signs of domestic abuse

People who are being abused may:

  • Seem afraid or anxious to please their partner.
  • Go along with everything their partner says and does.
  • Check in often with their partner to report where they are and what they’re doing.
  • Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from their partner.
  • Talk about their partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness. 

What can you do to help?

If you suspect someone you know is being abused: 


  • Ask if something is wrong.
  • Express concern.
  • Listen and validate.
  • Offer help.
  • Support his or her decisions.


  • Wait for him or her to come to you.
  • Judge or blame.
  • Pressure him or her.
  • Give advice.
  • Place conditions on your support. 

Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

Purple Ribbons will be available for you to wear in recognition of the awareness month at various locations and community events throughout the month of October.  If you would like a purple ribbon or want additional information about Domestic Violence Awareness Month activities, contact Dolly Huffman Clayton at 919-545-8367.

To show your support of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, please participate in the Candlelight Vigil which will take place at Siler City Town Hall on October 5, 2010 at 5:30pm.

If you or anybody you know is suffering from domestic violence or you would like additional information about domestic violence and services available call Family Violence and Rape Crisis Center at 919-542-4545 or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-7233

The following links provide information about domestic violence:

Chatham County’s local Domestic Violence Agency: Family Violence and Rape Crisis Services/Coalition for Family Peace:  www.fvrc.org